Ok guys.. today was my last day of school, and I came to the sad realization that I will now have to spend MORE time with my family, and I can no longer use the "I have to do my homework" excuse.
Don't get me wrong, I love my family very much and they love me as well.
However, my mom nags me NONSTOP. Nags, whines, bitches, complains, micro-manages, nitpicks, etc. It's not that I mind helping her with house chores, but I absolutely can't stand the way she talks to me (always negative) and always criticizing. It brings me down both in my mood and even in my self-esteem, which many of you are aware is on the low side. I always feel like I am "not good enough."
If I try to argue OR talk to her about it, I get one of the standard three responses:
I'm your mom, I'm supposed to criticize you.
I do everything for you and this is the thanks I get! Nobody appreciates me!
I'm not criticizing you I'm just trying to make you better.
Basically, trying to talk to her about it hasn't worked. I've resorted to attempting to bite my tongue when I get mad, cuz the fights get us nowhere. But holding it all in isn't really a healthy alternative, nor really feasible for somebody as expressive as me.
I can't stand her nitpicking anymore. UGH UGH UGH. She asks me to make dinner and picks on every little thing from telling me how to do everything (which I already know) or even down to which fork I should use to put the meat on the grill. I even considered gouging my eyes out w. the F*cking fork.
How the hell do I deal with this?????
Moving out is not an option, please keep replies serious, and do not insult my family either.
I guess it's bad when you have to ask an online forum how to deal with your family members
Don't get me wrong, I love my family very much and they love me as well.
However, my mom nags me NONSTOP. Nags, whines, bitches, complains, micro-manages, nitpicks, etc. It's not that I mind helping her with house chores, but I absolutely can't stand the way she talks to me (always negative) and always criticizing. It brings me down both in my mood and even in my self-esteem, which many of you are aware is on the low side. I always feel like I am "not good enough."
If I try to argue OR talk to her about it, I get one of the standard three responses:
I'm your mom, I'm supposed to criticize you.
I do everything for you and this is the thanks I get! Nobody appreciates me!
I'm not criticizing you I'm just trying to make you better.
Basically, trying to talk to her about it hasn't worked. I've resorted to attempting to bite my tongue when I get mad, cuz the fights get us nowhere. But holding it all in isn't really a healthy alternative, nor really feasible for somebody as expressive as me.
I can't stand her nitpicking anymore. UGH UGH UGH. She asks me to make dinner and picks on every little thing from telling me how to do everything (which I already know) or even down to which fork I should use to put the meat on the grill. I even considered gouging my eyes out w. the F*cking fork.
How the hell do I deal with this?????
Moving out is not an option, please keep replies serious, and do not insult my family either.
I guess it's bad when you have to ask an online forum how to deal with your family members