Pretty much every pressing movement you do will hit front delts. This includes millies, Arnies, Oly bar corner press, push press, bench press… those are easy to build.
Width happens from side delts - but these are little muscles relative to the anterior delt. You won't look like you've got any kind of size if you only do side laterals and upright rows; you simply can't go heavy enough on these exercises to generate enough microtrauma. (As an aside, this is where the Arnold press really shines, since it combines a military press with a side lateral - the front AND the side delt get a hit. Superset this with laterals and you'll get the most from this movement, since side delts like volume!)
Compounding this problem is the fact that upright rows are notorious RC killers. That's why I highly recommend cleans.
Think about what a clean does - as you pull, you're really preparing to throw the weight, and you're HEAVING it. This generates a great deal of microtrauma at the insertions of your delts due to the fast eccentric component.
If I'm not mistaken (if I am, someone will surely come in and gleefully correct me…), fast eccentrics generate the most microtrauma, followed by fast concentrics and then slow eccentrics. The problem is that fast eccentrics have the potential to cause a lot of harm, at least over a full ROM. But for Olympic lifts, the fast eccentric component isn't over the full ROM, it's only over a small portion of it - and that portion happens to hit the delts in the same path as upright rows, but without the rotator cuff damage because you're not pulling through the portion of the movement where the elbows are externally rotated and the rotator cuff is compromised. Instead, you're catching the bar, preparing to drop it down to your thighs for the next rep. Guess what happens when you drop that weight? You got it, another tug at the insertions, and from what happened to my own delts, the side ones took one hell of a hit! I swear my shoulders blew up when I started doing these. I'd love to get this studied in a physiology lab, but in the meantime, try hang cleans next time someone suggests upright rows.